“Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline you ear; Forget your people and your father’s house; then the King will desire your beauty. Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him.” Psalm 45:11
This verse is full of imperatives, “Listen, give attention, incline your ear, forget..” And as I read this verse, I couldn’t help but think of my daughter, and likewise all young girls.
We live in a world that says, impress your people, that says listen, give attention to what others think, what others say.
And if our daughters listen to the messages that bombard the media, they will hear messages which contradict God’s Word.
They will hear messages that say, “dress this way to get attention, use people to get what you want, use your body to manipulate.” They will hear messages that tell them they have to be a certain size, or a certain weight to be accepted. They must wear certain fashions to be popular.
I know, because I’ve been there. I heard these messages years ago, and fell for their traps. Something I want my daughter now to avoid.
Which is why I love these verses. This passage was written most likely describing the marriage of Solomon to Pharaoh’s daughter. And yet, the true King is the Lord, and as His children, we are His bride.
Thus the message is true for us as well.
God speaks to you ,to me, to our daughters, and He says,
“Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear!” He wants us to hear and know this message. Three times He says listen….
Next, He tells us to forget our people and our father’s house.
Basically He says, it matters not what your friends, the world, or even your family has to say. Forget it, forget the message they are pushing upon you. What they have to say is not what is important, it’s what I say, what I think of you that matters.
“Then the King will desire your beauty. Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him.”
When we care not for the opinion of others, when we care more for what our Lord has to say, we will realize it is He who desires us. We will recognize that we are beautiful in His sight, not because of what we look like on the outside, but for who we are on the inside. We will understand that the Lord looks not at the outward appearance, He looks at the heart.
And when we grasp His great love for us, we will realize He is Lord, and we will worship Him.
The Lord He is God, it is His opinion that matters, not what the media has to say, not what our friends or even family has to say.
And our daughters need to hear this message.
They need to realize their beauty comes from within not from without. They must grasp that the opinion of man matters not, rather it is what God says that matters.
Girls have a deep desire to be loved, this is the way God made us.
And they will seek to find that love in all the wrong places, if they don’t realize this love can only be found in the Lord.
Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”
We must teach our daughters that they should dress themselves not in the seductive dress of the world, rather they should dress themselves with compassion, kindness, gentleness, and patience.
These are the qualities which make them beautiful. This is what matters, not the size of their jeans.
Peter says it this way, “Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God (I Peter 3:3-4).”
Obviously taking care of ourselves, looking our best is important, but as Peter says, this is not the end all. For he says, it is what is inside, the gentle and quiet spirit that make us beautiful to others and to the Lord.
It is up to us moms to teach our daughters these things, for if we fail to do so, they will only hear the messages of the world, and they will succumb to their traps.
Let us be faithful to point our daughters to the King who is enthralled with their beauty. And teach them that what truly makes them beautiful daughters of the King is not what is on the outside, but rather what comes from within.