The early years of marriage I stayed at home loving on my babies.
Then I became a home school mom, teaching my little ones their numbers and ABC’s.
Yet, all of these years I was also a pastor’s wife.
Then our family moved to Korea, and I became a missionary wife and home school mom.
Now living in Central Asia, I am once more the missionary wife, but this time my kids are in school. Giving me extra time for ministry and work in the field.
I have loved this added aspect of life, but in many ways have also missed my time at home with the kids.Missed having the house and dinner ready for my husband’s arrival.
The past year, our first year here, has been a whirlwind. The days have flown by, as we have been every so busy. And if I’m not careful it is easy to lose sight of what my first and most important ministry is.
Because more important than ministering to the people here, more important than “doing” ministry. Is ministering to my husband and kids.
After God, they are to come first.
The Lord has been teaching me this, and as I have prayed and asked Him to show me how to minister to my family. He has spoken to my heart and said, it is the basic, day-to-day things that show them they are important.
It is having an orderly (notice I didn’t say clean 🙂 ) home to come home to.
It is having cookies baked for the kids.
It is listening to my husband after he has had a long day.
Listening to my kids tell me about their days.
It is making sure they have a good, filling breakfast to start their day and a nutritious meal to end their day.
It is all these things and more, but it is the little things.
Someday’s this is not possible. Some days, we all arrive home at the same time, and I have to scramble to get dinner on the table.
Some days, we over sleep and breakfast is cereal and bread.
Other days, are busy and we are all moving in different directions.
Yet, the majority of days should include all of the above.
Because as a wife, my first priority is to my husband.
As a mom, my first priority is to my kids.
I can not minister to others, while I neglect my family.
In order to minister well to others, I must first minister well to my family.
So to the stay at home mom, I’ve been there and I remember the days I felt discouraged. But I am here to encourage you to embrace the time you have with your family. And don’t despise the daily grind, look at it as a way to minister to your spouse and kids.
To the pastor’s wife/missionary wife… never forget that your first priority is your family. Serve first the Lord, then your family, and then others.
To all wives, God has designed it so that your ministry is first and foremost to your family. This is His perfect design. Let us then not grow weary, let us not think what we do is trivial, but let us embrace this God given ministry and serve our families well.
The days go fast, children grow quick… may we use each day to serve the ones God has given unto us, and may we use each day to serve the Lord through them.